About
The Genetic Mirror
If you've ever looked at your child's struggles and felt a sudden, disorienting flicker of recognition—you're not alone. You're looking into the Genetic Mirror.
Current research estimates the heritability of ADHD at over 75%. Autism runs in families through a complex genetic lottery. For generations, neurodivergent parents have been the "lost generation"—masking their way through a world not built for them, only to discover their own neurotype when their child is diagnosed.
This Wasn't in the Brochure is the survival guide for this generation. It's not a book about managing your child. It's a book about understanding the shared nervous system language spoken in your home—and building infrastructure that works for both of you.
What Makes This Different
Traditional parenting books assume you're a neurotypical parent who just needs better strategies for your difficult child. This book assumes you—the parent—likely share your child's neurotype. Your exhaustion isn't a failure of character; it's a mismatch of biology and environment.
Every strategy in this book is designed for your executive function deficits, not just your child's. Sensory protection for you. Visual timers for you. Tap-out protocols for when your RSD is triggered. Prosthetics, not willpower.
And because we know that co-parenting conflict often increases when one parent "gets it" and the other doesn't, every chapter includes "If Co-Parents Disagree" variations. You don't need a cooperative co-parent to use this book. Parallel parenting is still parenting.
About the Author
Adrian Wedd is part of the lost generation—a late-diagnosed neurodivergent parent who discovered his own neurology through his children's diagnoses. This book emerged from that double discovery: the realization that the parenting strategies that "should" work don't work when your nervous system operates differently.
This guide represents lived experience backed by rigorous research. It's the book Adrian wished existed when he first looked into the Genetic Mirror.
The Three-AI Workflow
This book was developed using an innovative three-AI collaborative workflow, with each AI agent bringing specialized expertise:
- CODEX — Technical accuracy, citations, and safety notes
- CLAUDE — Structural consistency and practical toolkits
- GEMINI — Voice, metaphor discipline, and readability
The result is a manuscript that combines rigorous evidence with accessible language and immediately actionable strategies.